When Online Dating Goes Offline

As the header suggests today’s post is gonna have some fun twists. So hold on tight and let’s hear Allison’s story. Continue Allison…

Dating online can be deceiving. You spend the first moments of this potential relationship searching the profile of your possible suitor, Facebooking and Googling their names. You are pleased with their honest profiles, likes and dislikes as well as their photos.

Then comes the exchange in emails and phone calls. You think to yourself, this guy is really funny and has a great voice! Your heart starts to flutter and you start running date outfits through your head.

A date has been set at your favorite neighborhood restaurant and you pump yourself up in the mirror. You can do this, don’t be nervous-he’s going to be a great guy, he could be the one!

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Then you arrive at your destination, get out of the car and see a man that vaguely resembles what you saw online standing in front of the restaurant. As you approach him you try to convince yourself, your date is inside and the grinning man in front of you isn’t actually him because this guys if at least 4 inches shorter than you and your date said he was at least 5’7.

Judging by his antsy dance moves and small waves you realize… nope, this is him. Your dreams of a white picket fence and 2.5 kids are shattered. If he has already fibbed about his actual height there has to be more he is hiding.

You start dinner with a strong glass of red wine and contemplate how to end this dinner date early. There was more chemistry on paper then in person.

Before the main course arrives you realize he is a profuse sweater and won’t stop touching your knee. He tells you about his mother and how family Christmases would be at him home and if you were to join him 9 months down the road.

How does one go from looking perfectly cool online and then coming off as eager and overachieving in person? Easy. Dating online is easy. It’s when it gets offline that it becomes hard.

Online you can create a persona that you think you are and share your best attributes. Dating profiles don’t display your less than favorable traits. I am sure that in my profile what came off witty was delivered flat in person.

•        When it comes to online dating it’s important not to hype yourself into something you aren’t. Be yourself; leave the fluff off the table. If someone doesn’t like your profile, then good-you don’t need them anyway.

•        Talk on the phone at least 3 times before meeting with them; that first phone call is always nerve-racking and uncomfortable.

•        Meet for coffee or one drink. Keep your first date short and sweet, just in case.

•        Go into the date with a positive attitude and lower your expectations. First dates are always the hardest.

•        If there is clearly no chance that you want to see this person again, be honest. End it nicely.

Just remember that online dating is available to help those who don’t have time to go out and do social things in safe settings to meet someone. They are simply an aid, not a miracle worker. You have to be willing to put in the effort and make it work for yourself.

Keep an open mind and open heart and date happily.

About the Author:-

Allison after graduation allowed herself to combine her two passions: writing and children. She has enjoyed furthering her writing career with www.nannyclassifieds.com. She can be in touch through e-mail allisonDOTnannyclassifiedsATgmail rest you know.

 

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